Thanks Amy... I know I will feel sorry for him later. He said to me last night "I'm trying to get my f life in order and you're not f helping me!" He isn't trying anything. He went to outpatient for 5 days... never followed up or went to meetings. Was actually thrown out of the program for telling everyone at a meeting that he was going to drink and smoke pot that weekend because those things weren't his problem. As for helping him... my god I have never helped anyone more. Emotionally and financially... Referring to his "you're not helping me" comment... yes I'm not helping him get drugs and am questioning all his spending.