thanks dolly. it is so hard though. there was not other choice to make but to leave. he is drinking way more and being way more violent. he has never "physically" hurt me but the breaking things and yelling and slamming things around would have eventually turned on to me...... he is going back to work tomorrow and i plan to go over to the house every day for a couple of hours and pack stuff and hopefully by the end of the week i'll have it all out. i just get so angry when i think of having to leave behind my new washer/dryer for the laundramat and my beautiful remodeled kitchen in trade for a small outdated one! but its all worth my peace of mind. he is killing himself with alcohol, a blood disease that attacks the liver! and extreme depression....all i can do is hope that he wakes up and smells the coffee.....and gets help. i don't ever want to go back to him again. the sight of him makes me so ill.....