Welcome! Glad you found SR...Read around - there are great forums here both for those recovering and friends and family.
I'm sorry your friend is not yet ready to stop drinking. The most important thing for your recovery is to focus on what it takes for you.
We promised to be recovery buddies
Sounds like the key word here is recovery, and she isn't yet ready to be that type of buddy. Sometimes we have to change people, places and things as part of our recovery journey.