Originally Posted by
cb12 
The friends mentioned above are having a really hard time adjusting to the "new" Claire. I think it might be time to move on. This saddens me because we have been through almost 10 years of friendship.
This may be true. I've had some great friendships over the years that didn't last for one reason or another - usually related to what point I was at in my life. But it may also be a time issue. Give it some more time and see what happens. And stick to your boundaries!
In situations like these, I like to say something to the effect of "I am here to support you but I can't condone (fill in the blank) nor deny (said blank)." What anyone else does with that is their problem.