Dear MCBB, this is a completely normal reaction you are having about wanting to hear from her and feeling left out. My son has been in an inpatient rehab for the last 77 days. We rarely hear from him. What I do know is that he is focusing on HIS recovery and working HIS program. You will learn so much about how your codependency on her has affected both of your struggles with sobriety. I have learned that I MUST let him go so that he can achieve his goals. I cannot do this for him. You need to let her experience her core feelings and emotions and be able to support her even if you don't know what she is doing. Trust in the Higher Power (God) to watch over her. This is a hard thing to do, but is the process of recovery.
Hugs and support,
Teresa