Thanks... yes I have a plan to get out if he doesn't. It is my house but that really doesn't make a difference. I'm hoping he'll leave and go to his parents house but don't think they want to enable him any longer. During his ranting when he doesn't get what he wants, he often says "I hate my life."... even though the guy has a great job, business, family, and a little girl that absolutely adores him, he is never satisfied. He also has a lot of pride and doesn't want anyone knowing about his addiction even though everyone pretty much know and sees it in him... (my uncle commented several times on his jaw always moving which is pretty weird) Anyway, yes I do think when we separate that he will threaten suicide because he will truly have nothing AND people will "find out". That will be his bottom I would think... but then again he lost his first wife AND a very big business once already to his addiction. I know I have hit my bottom... Thank you.