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Old 01-21-2012, 08:23 AM
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Impurrfect
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(((cad))) - you are NOT stupid. People don't come with instruction books on "how to live with an A". Most of us believe the best in people, believe that they are going to do what they say. Dealing with an A (and yes, I'm an RA) is a whole 'nother story and most of us just don't know how to do it. Heck, *I* didn't know how to deal with it, even though I know addiction inside and out!

When we know better, we do better. For me, it's been a long process, but at least now (most of the time) when someone I love has A behaviors, I want to DETACH, not jump in there and try to "help" them.

Oh, and about the teenager-throwing-a-tantrum? It wasn't until I moved back home and was actually around my niece that I realized how closely teenage behavior and addict behavior are so close...self centered, wants what they want when they want it, the world "revolves around them" and no concept of consequences.

Hugs and prayers,

Amy
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