Glad to hear that you are finding support and comfort here on SR.
Addicts often escalate their behaviors as the others in their lives begin taking care of themselves first. They do not want the dynamic to change and they will pull out some very manipulative tools out. Their greatest tools are making us feel something using our love as the catalyst. Fear, guilt, anger, pity, shame are some of the most powerful feelings they try to manipulate and get the reactions they desire. It keeps us in the "hostage" role.
They use "king baby" tactics and we often give in to their antics to get them to shut up.
Take care of you and your little one.
gentle hugs
ke