Chimmy, I am so sorry, I guess it's easier in some ways for me, my mom has been drinking hard for over 40 years, no breaks, just a steady increase from 1 bottle of wine a night in the 1960's to 6 bottles all day and night now. Total denial. Also, we were never really close, so it just is not the same for me, it's easier for me to be mad at her because of all the damage she has caused.
I don't have any advice, but I do have a big hug for you, close your eyes and feel me wrapping you up and giving you the big squeeze, just soak up some comfort, anytime you need a hug just let me know, I will have one for you.
Bill