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Old 01-19-2012, 05:28 PM
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Originally Posted by Astrosmurf View Post
Yikes. Thanks guys, some hard but wise advice. In ansewr to OutToLunch, the boundaries I've stated are that if she ever uses again I'm walking without discussion; and if things don't stay monogomous I'm also gone. But lots more to think about there anyway.
Consider reframing this to a self affirming statement:

" I will not be in a relationship with anyone who uses drugs or cheats".

When and if you are confronted with such a situation, you take responsibility for your boundary and exit.
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