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Astrosmurf Yikes. Thanks guys, some hard but wise advice. In ansewr to OutToLunch, the boundaries I've stated are that if she ever uses again I'm walking without discussion; and if things don't stay monogomous I'm also gone. But lots more to think about there anyway.
Consider reframing this to a self affirming statement:
" I will not be in a relationship with anyone who uses drugs or cheats".
When and if you are confronted with such a situation, you take responsibility for your boundary and exit.