Thank you all so much for your honest and heartfelt answers! I do plan on attending NarAnon meetings and reading much more on the subject. I care for him so much that his health and sobriety are my number one priorities. If that means that we just remain friends forever and never know if the connection we share is deeper than friendship that is ok. We are moving very slowly and as you all have said I believe that is the best way. I have told him that his recovery is the most important thing and he agrees. It makes me very nervous, only he knows what he is ready for and I support whatever that is.
cc88 I am so sorry to hear about your brother, I can only imagine your hurt for I have not been in that situation.
Thank you again for all of your responses.