Hi Plath,
I think it's fantastic that you recognize, even after the fact, that you do these things! That in itself is progress!!
I look at it this way....it took me many, many years to learn these behaviors....it's going to take me a while to unlearn them.
Something that one of our F&F members shared recently is WAIT!
Why
Am
I
Talking?
Before saying a word, stop, think about what you are about to say and why. Is it really necessary for me to say this.....and in this way? I've been trying to use this lately, and it helps!