Thank you for this post. It reminds me that I still have much work to do on myself and have been debating on whether to go back to alanon and or coda meetings. Since my XABF died I have debated on whether the meetings would be helpful at this stage or not. We were not living together at the time of his death but I was still quite emotionally connected and have been going through a lot of personal turmoil as to why I was so attached and attracted to him to begin with. Returning to alanon and or coda may help me figure it out. So nice to hear how well you are doing and how healthy you sound.