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wifeneedhelp .....nothing has changed that I thought would.
I think many of us attribute too much to addiction. So often it seems that once someone is sober, they are still not the person we want/need them to be. Is it him or is it our hopeful fantasy/expectation? Likely it's both.
Short tempers and outbursts can cause as much hurt/harm, if not more than physical abuse, especially when there are children involved.
His unwillingness to engage with his family and /or have sex with you likely has nothing to do with you. He sounds miserable in his own skin.
Have you considered marriage counselling?