Originally Posted by
LifeRecovery 
Similar to Pelican my ex did not have representation. We just hired one lawyer and I was represented.
I wish I had left the contact up to the attorney at every junction...even if it cost us more financially. The emotional stuff escalated when I made the contact and it gave him a chance to make some cheap shots against me (excusing me of dragging my feet, playing games etc). Of note the divorce only took us four months so my contact just created more confusion.
This is a VERY good piece of advice. It's not easy...but I've taken up this position as well. No matter how many attempts he has made to draw me into the discussion, I don't respond in any way to his emails, ect. (which prompted him to start calling my friends)
There is no conversation at all that could happen between the two of us that would not make much worse getting to the end of this. Wise advice, thank you LifeRecovery