Hi Flyte and Welcome to SR. Glad you are here but sorry you are in the spot that brought you here. I hope you will stick around and read the stickies at the top of the forum and just keep reading and posting.
Anything you can do about your work schedule taking you out of town so much?
Any idea what's going on with your wife that she decided she wanted to be in an altered state? If she's be in a program in the past, she knows that's not a good path for her.
Just want to affirm that you have a right to be angry! And upset and scared and every other feeling you must be feeling upon learning this news.