I found for me that the anger I felt towards my EXAH was a mask to the deep pain underneath that I refused to deal with for a long time. Anger was an effective coping tool for me because it kept people at arm's length, and kept me from feeling the pain.
It was such a huge relief to work the steps through a 12-step program and let that anger go. I also sought therapy. I finally was able to feel and process the pain.
Anger and resentments cut me off from the sunlight of the spirit.
Praying you are able to find peace of mind and a quiet heart.
