Thanks so much! Yes, I am going to my first AlAnon meeting tonight. It is a Family Group meeting, so I guess specially designed for people dealing with an alcoholic loved one. Even before going, I am feeling more serene.
I don't know what will happen - to him, to me, to us... but I will take it 1 day at a time, I will take care of myself, and I will work each day on making detachment a positive part of my life. I will continue to decide what boundaries I will create and how to enforce them. I love him, but he is a grown man and I am not his mother. I know he can get better if he wants to, and I know my presence or absence will not make a lick of difference in that process. I am learning. My head knows all these things, and I will be patient with myself as I teach my heart to feel them truthfully.