Old 01-14-2012, 10:51 AM
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Pelican
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Welcome to the SR family Protocol!

You have found a wonderful resource of information and support for yourself. Please stick around and read some of our stories in the 'stickies' at the top of this forum page. I also encourage you to post as much as needed. We understand.

Alcoholism is a progressive condition and it gets worse if untreated.
Your ABF has depression, and unfortunately he is self-medicating with a depressant. Alcohol is a known depressant. He will intensify his depression. He and his therapist will need to work that out.

We have an expression here and around the rooms (AA and Alanon) of recovery:
Alcoholics don't have relationships, they have hostages.

You may be feeling some of that with your ABF.

Keep reading and posting. You are among friends that have also experienced the same thing.

I can't tell you how to fix him, but I can tell you about the 3 C's that helped me understand my loved ones alcoholism:

I did not Cause it
I can not Control it
I will not Cure it

It took me a while to finally let go and allow the A to own the addiction. Best thing I ever did for ME.
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