Thanks for your input everyone
I think I will tell the woman who sponsored me in sobriety and my close friend that I'm sober but have found something that works better for me outside of the fellowship
My friend will be fine with it, she knows I was searching and we've discussed that AA isnt for everyone and plenty of people get sober without AA (my Dad has been a non drinker for 13 years, her mums partner made a decision to never drink again at 21 and that was 25 years ago, he has also never been to AA)
My sponsor on the otherhand will no doubt send me a long email about the danger of white knuckling, dry drunking is and how this is a progressive disease etc etc
Thats OK - I know I'm never going to drink again