Welcome LuckyGirl
There's many different approaches and methods of recovery around - if you decide to add something extra to reading and posting here, here's some links to some of the main players - many of them are not meeting based
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...formation.html
I recommend you visit the
Secular Connections forum if you think you may benefit from a non 12 step approach.
glad to have you with us
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