(((90210))) - Welcome to SR, though I'm sorry for what brought you here.
My first recommendation would be to read through other threads in this forum. There are a whole lot of people who have, or are, dealing with loved ones who are addicts.
I'm a recovering addict, but also had 3 ex bf's who were also addicts, so I know both sides of the "addiction fence".
Addiction is a life-long disease. We A's (addicts/alcoholics) CAN choose recovery and do well, but there is no guarantee. I'm going on 5 years in recovery, but that is through MY choice and MY actions. My last bf had no desire for recovery and I had to let him go.
It's perfectly okay to not want to deal with this. I know many people would advise you to "run like he!!". It's YOUR decision on what you want to do, but this is a GREAT place to learn about addiction and what it entails. Regardless of what you decide, we are here for you.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy