Hello cad, welcome to SR.
These are two of our sticky threads for you to read. Have you considered going to Naranon or Al-Anon meetings? In addition to coming here to SR, it's a great way to find some face to face support for yourself.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...cy-family.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ddicts-do.html