not cold at all! that's awesome and where i aspire to be in the future with certain people in my life. you were kind and helpful, but you let him be with his struggle without trying to make it "better" for him in that way i know i have done - soothing a crying partner, assuring i'll be there always, extending myself beyond my emotional or financial or mental capacity, and thinking all of that will earn me love and make them better. never has! just made me crazy!
way to go. whatever you are doing is working