Originally Posted by BobbyJ

Havent talked to the x for months. Today at work I answered his phone call.
I could tell he was very depressed from the tone of his voice.

Said he has had a drink since Christmas
And hasnt had no medical attention since
From a 5th a day to 0....Does make me worry
And I did suggest that he seek medical attention

We discussed some financial matters that needed attention
before he goes into a 90 rehab

For the first time in 16 years, I heard "honesty" in his voice

I spoke to him about recovery, getting sober, getting honest
just like I would with any other alcoholic
I was straight forward and called an ace, an ace

When he began to cry, I didnt get sad, I said what was on my mind

He told me the reason he failed to stay sober last year, was because I didnt give him no support when he came home from rehab.I didnt blink an eye. I told him straight up, what I thought of that..*admit, a tiny bit of Grrrr....

It's the weirdest feeling, I dont know what it means....
It was like talking to a stranger, or like I would was talking to another
alcoholic/addict.

I had no real emotional attachment

I told him that I could not talk to him everyday. I am no longer married to him
and to be honest, it's hard to be your friend. But today, I found it in my heart, to talk to you as I would another alcoholic who just needed someone to listen to them and share your sad thoughts. He cried like a baby thru out most of the conversation.

I told him to quit crying and to give Thanks to God he has given you one more chance to live and get sober. Its your choice to lay there and cry or pick up your ass and do something about it. I wished him luck on finding his recovery and his new journey of life. Usually, if I heard him cry, it would
break my heart. It does hurt to a point, but its different this time.......

What is this?? Is it part of the process, healing, crazy, cold, what is it???