Originally Posted by
WMaxwell 
If an addict is incapable of love and is only capable of using and manipulating people to fuel the addiction, then that means that he TRICKED you or MANIPULATED you into falling in love with him so he could use you!
HE didn't trick you into anything. He was what he was. It was YOU who saw someone you loved. What you saw filled your needs. You can say he 'tricked' you because he hid his addiction; and that's no doubt true. But now you know he's not what you thought, now that you know what you fell in love with is a fantasy why are you still engaging with him? If the answer is, you are now 'trapped' by your love, it's YOU tricking you.
Originally Posted by
WMaxwell Why am I allowing myself to be used and manipulated by someone who doesn't love me?
Why would you allow anyone use and manipulate you whether they love you or not? Is it really all right if he loves you?
My AS loves me and I love him. And it makes not one bit of difference. Love doesn't cure rabies.