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Old 01-10-2012, 07:40 AM
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EnglishGarden
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I'm sorry for all the pain you are feeling, missbea.

You have known him three years but "from a distance" for two and a half of those years.

Everyone here knows there is so much about this man you do not know and would be stunned---beyond your disbelief right now---to learn.

If he moves back in and you are isolated with him in a city where you have "no friends and no family", you will be the one in the psych ward next. More emotional devastation is certain if you continue living with him and ongoing mental trauma. You are also at high risk for the std's he is potentially carrying. I would not assume he is not with other women. Not if coke is his drug.

Where can you move away to, from him? You need to return to a safe place and he needs to go into a long term treatment program.

Those of us who have lived with someone in active addiction know that you are in for more devastating pain if you continue to live with him. Please consider moving away, seeking help for yourself about setting boundaries, and keep away from the addict. Until he is longtime sober.

By the way, addicts are master manipulators, perfect liars, and they really turn on a lot of those crocodile tears. It keeps things from changing.

Stay strong. God bless.

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