EnglishGarden

Dear,
You wrote: "I live with a stranger."
and "He hit me."

We know how much danger you are in and we fight for you and your daughter with our experience.

Recovering addicts who really walk the walk will advise you to step away from him until he has a full year of solid sobriety.

You can love him and wait for him from an emotional and a physical distance. You do not have to put your daughter at risk and you do not have to be hit again. You can place him in the hands of the only people who can help him: addiction specialists.

It's okay to be sensitive about the hard words here. I was. And in my naivete about how deadly and cunning addiction really is, I was absolutely unequipped to be the partner of an addict, recovering or otherwise.

Truly, if ever you want support, please do always talk to recovering codependents here, or in meetings, for we do understand how strong your love is. We just know that usually the spouse becomes an enabler, and hard as it is for you to imagine, enablers can hasten an addict to his death. And enablers and their children can go down, too.

This is a very very dangerous disease for the family. Please always stay connected to people in recovery.

Much love to you.