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Old 01-07-2012, 10:25 AM
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lesliej
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oh...the poison?

has he told you stories about his past, the hardships, the pain, the "reasons" why he has struggled?

how did you react? with concern? with sympathy? with "understanding"?
poison.
normal relationship responses are poison in addiction...they enable
you won't understand unless you start some intensive codependency work and al anon mtgs etc...and maybe do a little therapy too...these are the prerequisite requirements for any sort of hope in a relationship with an addict. are you willing to do the work??

you need to DETOXIFY your responses. if you are in a relationship with a "normie" you probably just get to skip along your merry way into love land and only deal with "normal" relationship issues

you are in a foreign land dear, and you don't speak the language so it is disorienting and confusing. you do not need to be a hero. if you decide to stamp your passport and say Ciao it doesn't mean you didn't have true feelings for him. it just meant you didn't belong in his territory
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