Originally Posted by
lesliej 
if you are "in relationship" with someone you usually do things like "back them up" "take their side" "have sympathy for them" "encourage and support them" "accept their faults" etc etc etc
for a person who is working a recovery program, and especially an early recovery program...these sorts of relationship behaviors (which are pretty normal and sweet and partnership oriented) can be deadly!! unknowingly one can feed the addict's ego, pride, self pity and resentments...it is not soul nourishment to do so...it is poison to an addict!
Can you give some examples maybe?
Cause this is what I stumble on and am confused about- if I didn't cause it, can't cure it, how can I make it worse - not counting say....giving him money, or covering up bad behavior, etc.
What day to day actions ...maybe the ego, pride ...etc if you could give a couple of examples
