Wow, after reading ur share all I could
think was,,,your situation is similar to
mine, but reversed. It was my mom that
was the sick person in our 6 person family
and my dad was the one to try and smooth
things over by just saying my mom was
ill and that she doesnt know what she is
doing by physically, verbally and emotionally
abusing me. That I need to forgive her for
the hurt she did to me. Yeah, right I said.
So much pain and so much hurt I left at 18
as well to only drink to numb, fears, resentments,
anger and such.
I was told by my mom to stay away from my
dad because he was hers and that drew the line
in the sand with any kind of father daughter
relationship i ever wanted with my dad.
When my other siblings saw my dad as always
preaching i took what he said as guidance in my
life and would never steer me wrong.
In my yrs, i stayed married for 25 yrs raising
2 awesome kids who r adults today with no
addictions. I entered recovery 8 yrs. into that
marriage and my little ones were small. So
the family have known me in recovery for the
most part.
Divorce came because of lack of communication
and understanding and probably other needs I
needed that i wasnt getting from my spouse.
Emotional, spiritual.
Today, im 21 yrs sober, almost 3 yrs remarried
living and honest joyful rewarding life like I could
ever imagine.
Sadly, my relationship with both my families is
estrange, if im saying that right. Meaning I have
little to no contact with any of them.
My recovery is important to me and is healthy.
And to submit myself or subject myself to family
sickness or illness would only be harmful to my
own recovery progress.