Welcome Lovestrong.....I don't have the time to respond like I want, so all of what they said above...lol! I highly recommend reading Codependent No More. It is truly worth it. I took one weekend and read it, highlighted about a million things and did the activities at the end of each chapter. What an eye opener! I have also ordered her second book from Amazon, which delves further and has more specific methods to really breaking free! Best wishes to you!