Hi lovestrong,
We have similar situations. I joined this site a week ago and it is really full of information - it's helping me .
This comment:
your FIRST concern wasn't about how YOUR codependency is affecting YOU, it was about if it is affecting HIM. see "normally" when we find out we got some illness or injury, we want to know how to make it go away and how to make US better, healthy and whole. codependency turns everything on it's ear and the LAST person we concern ourselves with is.....US.
I'm discovering is Really important. I'm just starting to understand what codependency is also. I matched a lot of the checklist Also .
It's scary basically
I came here trying to understand my boyfriend and I see along with that I Have to figure me out.
This site will help us' both do that -