Well, his family went though some groups last time he was in treatment, and atnhis current intake they encouraged me to be positive and support his choice to go to rehab. I certainly do not enable him, but then again I never had a chance to, I didn't know he was using.
Separation is definitely an option. I couldn't afford it alone, but through the courts and child support I'm hoping to get by. I would have to live alone as I have no family. We have agreed that since our lease is up for renewal in April, I will stay in our home with our daughter while we figure it out. If he completes the program and stays in intensive outpatient, he can stay also. If I am not happy and feeling safe, he will help me move out and separate at that time. I would just hate to drop school as I onl have a year left and I couldn't handle it if I was the sole caretaker of our kid.