This is one of the most important things I work on every day. Knowing what love is and isn't. Looking back on my marriage, I can honestly say my perception of love was messed up. I've since come to believe that my "love" for him was selfish. I wanted him to be a certain way and I called that love. I presumed to know what was best for him, but really it was what was best for ME. That's not love. Today I strive to love people exactly the way they are, whether I like them or not. That doesn't mean I let other people wreak havoc in my life, but it also means I let them be and allow them to walk their own path. It's not always easy, but the rewards are immense.
L