Thanks, Jamaica, for your comment on AHs breaking through their denial. I know that you are right. I really like what NYC has to say too about giving yourself credit for your progress thus far. I've been trying to do that with myself because NYC is right that it is very intimidating to leave a long-term relationship. At least we both have detached enough from our marriages to realize that we can't live with their alcoholism. Now, we just need to decide what we want for our futures. The more I value myself the more I realize that I want more than what he can give me. I'll be praying for you and your situation with your AH.