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This is true, it is a trap for me. I looked because I thought he was lying. I didn't need to snoop to confirm what I already knew
Isn't amazing how "we knew"! I knew when my husband was sneaking, but couldn't prove it. Finally the charade was over and he confesse but WE ALWAYS KNOW!
I recommend NC. If you havent been to Al-Anon, I recommend it. Also "Courage to Change" is a wonderful book. It's daily reading for me! By continuing to be part of his "alcoholic madness" you may be prolonging his recovery. He was to want it for himself, and you can't give it to him. You can only work on finding peace and joy in YOUR life.
Prayers for strength and courage!