My fantasy was to move to Hawaii and even got a few job potentials but my husband wouldn't go for it. I understand the desire to just vanish and be a new person all alone somewhere new without all the baggage. But that is not reality is it? I also understand the frustration when someone says something totally uncalled for and rude. I am so stunned I can't answer back and at the time I think discretion is the better part of valor. But then I steam about it later. I too wish I would just say back, "That's rude". For me I had to dig deep and forgive. I know it sounds trite and preachy but it worked for me. Good luck.