I don't know...I guess for what it's worth..My wife of 17 years leaving me was just one more thing I needed to finally give up and seek help...It took me another six years...A few more people to hurt...A little more to lose...To finally end up where I am....A greatful member of AA.....Nothing happens in God's world by mistake. It took me every drink that I ever had to get me where I need to be. I wish you nothing but the best in whatever decision you make....And I hope he gets help.