But sometimes, he asks me for advise. What i think it would be better. So thats why I started asking that question, to actually have the right answer. He is a free man, he makes the choice.
Having been at one time in my life where your ABF is now, I can tell you he is asking your advice, so when you give it, and he half azz tries it and it doesn't work, then it is YOUR FAULT.
I would suggest that when he asks for advice to say to him "you do the research and you figure out what will work best for you."
Love and hugs,
It is another way of manipulation to keep you involved in his 'drama'.