Well once again kindred spirits. When my Dad was in forced AA in a lock up treatment he wrote apology letters to my 5 siblings and me. In theirs he was amazingly forthright and truthful, admitting his preference for my two sisters and apologizing for beating the other three. But, when it came to me, the 5th born, his letter stated it was all MY fault. So from 100 miles away I must have made him take my grandfathers rifle and try to shoot my Mom and then go on a drunken rampage that got him arrested. Yeah right. My fault. Maybe he singled me out because my Mom was living with me while he was incarcerated. But whatever the reason, I didn't really even care.
I think their brains are fried and they can't think straight. Don't be surprised by your Dad's logic, they have none or they wouldn't be where they are. I just say a prayer for you and your folks. Hang in there, you are not alone.