Originally Posted by
sprman24 
----And now when he wants to have help, I just gonna kick him away again. For some reason I don't understand that. I KNOW he has to help himself, and I can't. But I can't set boundaries and then not stick to my word either, can I ?
I must have missed that .... what help does he want you to provide?
And AA and rehab are two totally different things. I went to rehab ... once outpatient and didn't stay sober and then inpatient and stayed sober thus far. Personally, I feel like inpatient rehab was what I needed but it isn't a quick fix. I'm also a member of AA and I work the steps to continue my sobriety. I don't do it because people in my life wanted me to I did/do it because I was finally miserable enough to do the work.