And was wondering if rehab is better then AA or AA can simply do the same job as rehab.
To be honest, it really doesn't matter. He will get better when he is ready to get better and not one second sooner. Doesn't matter what you do or say, doesn't matter what you don't do or say. You might as well go out and talk to a mailbox for all the good it will do. At least the mailbox won't get angry.
I know it is so hard to let go but based on my experience I had to. I am no longer responsible for my AW's recovery, it is all hers and I feel much better. Admitting I was powerless over her drinking was the first step to my recovery and the first step in my becoming sane.
Your friend,