Newcomers are welcome....it helps the oldtimers remember where they were and how far they have come....and you are the most important person in the room. They were all there once. I filled the rooms up with tears many times. Spill it. That is how it works. Lois Wilson realized even after Bill got sober she was miserable. She started Alanon in her kitchen to learn how to help herself get over anger, sadness, resentments, powerlessness, etc.....12th step is service.....You are the most important person in the room and they remember when they were in your seat and how people were there with experience, strenght, and HOPE to help them. Go. You will find a family of friends and your recovery will start whether his does or not. We are all ONE/ not alone.