Dear wanttobehappy,
No I am no longer with my first wife, we attended couples counseling about five years into our marriage when we hit a very rough patch, it helped us refocus and get on the same page (at least for a couple of years). We divorced about three years later after she started having an affair with a co-worker.
Glad you are thinking about attending al-anon again, please read some of the threads where people have discussed finding your "fit" or finding the right group.
Best of luck,
Bill