Originally Posted by
wanttobehappy 
LaTeeDa, thanks for your reply....just want a happy peacful life for me and my daughter. a partner who appreciates his family and their feelings, for someone to respect my feelings and care for us. To me it seems so simple, but with him its not.
I understand the conflict you feel. My AH also tried to moderate. He quit completely for short periods of time, too, but he never really "got sober," if you know what I mean.
I didn't just want to be happy, I wanted to be happy
with him. That's what made it complicated. Once I let go of the
with him part, it got a lot simpler. (NOTE: just because it's simple does not make it easy)
Best wishes and happy holidays to you,
L