Originally Posted by
Willybluedog Nicam, you are welcome to rant anytime you want, I will be glad to listen.
I am working with my therapist right now on building my self esteem, working on years of physical and verbal abuse by my parents and ex-wife.
She has given me exercises which include replacing negative thoughts with positive statements and repeating these positive statements 7 tmes a day for 21 days.
They include things like:
Replace I am a bad person with I am a good person
Replace I derseve to be treated like dirt with I deserve to be happy
Replace I am stupid with I am intellegent
Replace I don't deserve to be loved with I deserve love
It seems woefully simple to me but I have just started this so I cannot tell you if it will be successful or not but I am going to do my best to banish these bad thoughts.
Counseling and anti-depressants have been a godsend for me, they helped me find my way out of the dark.
I hope you can find your way out of the dark also, please keep trying, if you need to talk please let me know, I will also be there if you need some propping up or the always popular vurtual bear hug.
Best of luck to you,
Bill
I'm so going to do this! Was going to therapy but with the holidays and debt my ex got me into I had to put it on hold for a couple of months. Anti-depressants might be in order too. It's like, I know what the problem is, I know why I let this happen and the effect it's had, and I know what the solution is, but still can't get out of this funk.
"I started getting better when I began to believe actions instead of words. I know that is easier said then done." - LifeRecovery
Yes, this is it! His words were exactly what I wanted to hear and believe each time. His actions conveyed the exact OPPOSITE of his words, however.