Originally Posted by sesh

Hun, what you're willing to accept is not offered to you.
If he drank like that you wouldn't be here.
The real question is wether what you have is acceptable for you.

I strongly suggest you read more about alcoholism, there is a great section of stickies (permanent threads) at the top of this forum. I promise the more you learn the easier it gets, as by learning you can see your options more clearly. And trust me there are always some options there, it just takes work on ourselves to come to the place where we can see them and act on them.

It is only you who can make your own life better, not your husband. I personally resisted that idea forever, but once I allowed that possiblity my life started moving in a more positive direction.

It is unbelievable how much we can change, even almost become the very opposite of ourselves if necessary, once we give ourselves the permission to do so.

take care