...at all. It's about you. It has nothing to do with him failing or succeeding (they both fail and succeed regardless of spouses going to Alanon). It's about you. You Maggy. Not doing what you need to do for your own health and well being, and that of your children whether it's Alanon or anything else is the epitome of codependancy.
Alanon is about you. You. You.
Not him.
Cyranoak
P.s. If you don't go you are telling yourself you aren't willing to do things that may help YOU succeed. Please consider that.
Originally Posted by
Meggy 
but it just feels like if I do go then I am telling AH that I know he will fail.