Thank you guys so much for your helpful words.
She wasn't in six treatment centers in two yrs. She spent over two full years in six centers within a four year period. The adults in her life (myself included) didn't always act appropriately, and now she's paying the price. I allowed my own pain, dysfunction and weaknesses to affect my kids, and now both are emotionally struggling. I said that the cycle would be broken with me and I just perpetuated it. I'm so sorry for that.
Why does everyone (including me) have a cat as part of their screen name or avatar? We're a bunch of cat ladies.